October 2, 2023


Rejection is trouble which hurts our mental and physical capacity. But it will definitely happen to us all at some point. It negotiates the pain with a measure of reason belonging to the art of living. It often feels personal, like we were not good enough for someone or something, and that can lead us to lots of other negative thoughts or feelings about ourselves. And sometimes that emotional pain can feel similar in our bodies to physical pain like getting a headache or feeling woozy etc. It may happen through lots of ways such as in-person, online, by phone, text etc. Sometimes it’s a surprise, and sometimes you know it’s coming. It’s hard to know exactly how you will react.

Rejection has real-life connections such as maybe our friends disagree with our opinions even in simple cases. For example, sometimes our friends may not like the movie of our choice, sometimes they will not understand our opinions under circumstances, etc.. We don’t need to stop caring about things or stop taking risks. Instead, it means thinking about why you want things and experiences, what it means when you can’t have them and recognizing where you may need support to help you feel less alone if and when rejection happens.

There are some tools and strategies to help you prepare for, cope with and recover from rejection.

  • Take some time away from someone who has rejected you. If it hurts you, you don’t do or say something that you will regret. Hurting others will satisfy us for some period. But it is not good for the long run.

  • Our feelings such as sadness, disappointment, anger etc. are valid. Nursing our feelings is our responsibility. Support is essential, but consider other people you can go to instead of making the person who rejected you to deal with your feelings.

  • If we stay with the people who make us feel good, then stay with such people surrounded by you. If our family is best, then there is no other good option for us.

  • You often need rest to heal with physical pain. The same thing you have to do yourself when you are in the pain of rejection.

  • You have to make a list regarding your accomplishments, or the things you like about yourself. This will remind you that you are not a loser. You get the courage to accomplish your dreams and you feel great yourselves.

  • Even your friends, the family cannot solve your problems, then get some help from professionals such as counsellors, therapists etc..

  • Healing can’t be rushed or predicted. If we end up feeling better for a bit and then worse again later, it’s okay. Your experience will be unique to you, influenced by your situation or the nature of rejection.

  • If we feel someone’s rejection is personal, maybe it was. Maybe you have different kinds of interests, values etc. If someone doesn’t appreciate you, it doesn’t mean that you are inefficient.

  • Even though you face rejection, you have to take risks in your life because it doesn’t define you as a person. You have lots to offer.

  • Take some time to process it instead of forcing a smile on your face. It may hurt you little or a lot. That’s okay. Just be with those feelings and thoughts instead of trying to push them away.

  • You always have to focus on what you still have today. But you don’t get stuck in those dwellings and drag yourself down into an ocean of self-doubt and negativity.

  • You have to drag yourself further down by listening to your inner critic. Inner criticism is a voice which realises you about your mistakes, drawbacks etc. Then you can define and solve your problem yourself.

  • Don’t think that it’s all about you. It may be circumstances which lead you. Try to realise and study your situations.

  • Always remember that all the times are temporary. All times will pass as one by one.


Have you heard about JACK MA?

The founder of Alibaba Group, one of the richest men in the world. He says nothing is impossible in our life when you do it, if you don’t do it, it’s not possible. He said from his life. He faced a lot of rejections in his life. Lots of examples are there such as   He studied 3 years in film industries and applied for a job 30 times. All the times he was rejected. Then he went to become police, but they said he was not good.

When KFC came to China he applied for the job, 24 people went for the job, and 23 were selected. Then the 24th person was Jack Ma. He applied for Harvard for 10 times, the same happened for him. He said, “Belief what you are doing, love it, whether people like it don’t like it. Be simple and like the word life is like a box of chocolate. You never know what you can get, “. Now he is in the position to talk in front of everyone to give motivation. He became a role model.



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